Definition
Dialogue = dia + logos = through + the word = meaning through the word
Dialogue can be considered as a free flow of meaning between people in communication, in the sense of a stream that flows between banks.
Dialogue is a way of observing, collectively, how hidden values and intentions can control our behavior, and how unnoticed
cultural differences can clash without our realizing what is occurring. It can therefore be seen as an arena in which collective learning
takes place and out of which a sense of increased harmony, fellowship and creativity can arise.
The Spirit of Dialogue
The spirit of dialogue is, in short, the ability to hold many points of view in suspension, along with a primary interest in the creation of a common meaning.
Dialogue is Not Discussion or Debate
A key difference between a dialogue and an ordinary discussion is that, within the latter, people usually hold relatively fixed positions and argue in favor of their views as they try to convince others to change. At best this may produce agreement or compromise, but it does not give rise to anything creative. Moreover, whenever anything of fundamental significance is involved, then positions tend to be rigidly nonnegotiable and talk degenerates either into a confrontation in which there is no solution, or into a polite avoidance of the issues. Both these outcomes are extremely harmful, for they prevent the free play of thought in communication and therefore impede creativity.
In dialogue, however, a person may prefer a certain position but does not hold to it non-negotiably. He or she is ready to listen to others with sufficient sympathy and interest to understand the meaning of the other's position properly and is also ready to change his or her own point of view if there is good reason to do so. Clearly a spirit of goodwill or friendship is necessary for this to take place. It is not compatible with a spirit that is competitive, contentious, or aggressive.
Participation is Fundamental
The general view I have is that participation is fundamental. We must have dialogues, we must share our thoughts. We must be able to think together. If we can’t think together and talk together, then we can do nothing together. Culture implies shared meaning in which everybody participates.
I'm saying that it is necessary to share meaning. A society is a link of relationships among people and institutions, so that we can live together. But
it only works if we have a culture – that implies that we share meaning; i.e., significance, purpose, and value. Otherwise it falls apart. Our society is
incoherent, and it doesn't do that very well; it hasn't for along time, if it ever did. The different assumptions that people have are tacitly affecting the
whole meaning of what we are doing.
People Who Are Free to Inquire
We have to begin with people who are open enough to start the dialogue. We cannot begin with those who don’t want to.
To add some context here we will also quote Jiddu Krishnamurti:
So, what we are going to attempt to do is to explore; and to explore there must be freedom. That's the first thing:
freedom to inquire, which obviously means freedom from any commitment, intellectual or otherwise, from any philosophy, from any dogma,
so that the mind can look. And a mind can only look, explore when it is not caught, for the time being at least, in its own problems,
or in its own hopes. It is not committed to any philosophy, to any dogma, to any church. And this, it seems to me, is one of the most
difficult things to do. To look attentively at our own problems as human beings demands not only freedom, but attention. To attend
implies, surely, doesn't it?, to give your mind and heart to it, totally, with your nerves, with your ears, with your eyes, with your
heart, with your mind - to give totally to understand something. And to give so attentively, totally, there needs to be no motive,
no persuasion. You do it naturally, because the urgency of the problem is so great that it must be solved. But if we have a motive –
and all our urgency generally is based on some limited motive – our problems continue.
No Fixed Method or Practice
There is no set form or practice to establish communication except to engage in communicating itself and then encounter the problems in trying to do that.
The Purpose is Not to Solve a Problem but to Participate Together
Also, if we say we want to communicate but we give first priority to solving a certain practical problem this will limit us. Behind every practical problem there are assumptions that may stop us. Some of the things that we want to communicate may not be compatible with these assumptions. Therefore we say we want to communicate we are not going to first priority to solving any problem.
Giving Attention to What Prevents Communication
If each one of us can give full attention to what is actually blocking communication while he is also attending properly to the content of what is communicated, then we may be able to create something new between us, something of very great significance for bringing to an end the at present insoluble problems of the individual and of society.
No Leaders
We have to begin with people who are open enough to start the dialogue. We cannot begin with those who don’t want to.
Dialogue is Learning and Not a Practice
As I said, to do this is not really a practice but a constant situation of learning creatively and communication. As we begin to share meaning we will also share values and develop a common purpose. If everyone understands the same thing we can all work together. If we all see it differently and have different ends we cannot do it. The really trouble is, as I have already said, is that we do not have a coherent culture.
No Content is Excluded
We have to begin with people who are open enough to start the dialogue. We cannot begin with those who don’t want to.
The Basic Idea
The basic idea of dialogue is to be able to talk while suspending personal opinions as if you were holding them out in front of you and the group for all to see their coherence or incoherence while neither suppressing them nor insisting on them nor trying to convince or persuade others of their value. Instead we just want to understand.
In a way this is comparable to allowing the scientific spirit to infuse our communication. We need to have a kind of scientific attitude when we talk. That does mean that we are doing laboratory experiments but for the most part we are listening to the opinions of all whether they are pleasing or outrageous. That is the essence of the scientific spirit. We are just listening. We can do it. In this art of dialogue the first priority is to see the whole meaning of everyone without having to making any decision as to who is right and who is wrong. It is more important to see the whole meaning than that any particular opinion should prevail because seeing this will create a new frame of mind in which the consciousness of all has common content. The content being all these opinions at which we are all looking. The other person’s opinion is looked at the same as mine is. It means a common consciousness that is coherent. It is a kind of implicate order where each unfolds into the whole consciousness and the whole into each. With this common coherent consciousness we have a new kind of intelligence capable of thinking together. We have to begin with people who are open enough to start the dialogue. We cannot begin with those who don’t want to.
Suspension is the Heart of Dialogue
Suspension of thoughts, impulses, judgments, etc., lies at the very heart of dialogue. It is one of its most important new aspects. It is not easily grasped because the activity is both unfamiliar and subtle. Suspension involves attention, listening and looking and is essential to exploration. Speaking is necessary, of course, for without it there would be little in the dialogue to explore, But the actual process of exploration takes place during listening – not only to others but to oneself.
We Must Understand the Difference Between Observation and Analysis
The object of a dialogue is not to analyze things, or to win an
argument, or to exchange opinions. Rather, it is to suspend your opinions
and to look at the opinions – to listen to everybody’s opinions, to
suspend them, and to see what all that means. If we can see what all of
our opinions mean, then we are sharing a common content, even if we
don’t agree entirely. It may turn out that the opinions are not really very
important – they are all assumptions. And if we can see them all, we
may then move more creatively in a different direction. We can just
simply share the appreciation of the meanings; and out of this whole
thing, truth emerges unannounced – not that we have chosen it.
As we said, analysis has no place in observation. Analysis is the discovery of the cause and the effect. Right? Please understand this, and go into it carefully because observation is entirely different from analysis. Observation is immediate: you see the tree; but if you begin to analyze you never see the tree. Right? Understand this. That is, to observe means seeing, being sensitive, aware, and without any movement of thought. Just to observe.
So observation is not analysis. Analysis implies the analyzer who is analyzing something outside of himself. The analyzer thinks he understands, has superior knowledge and he is analyzing something outside of himself. But if you observe very carefully, the analyzer is the analyzed.
Jiddu Krishnamurti
Dialogue Generates Meaning
The power of meaning is that it completely organizes being. Very subtle cultural meanings have tremendous power over being. Therefore, it requires extreme clarity at these subtle levels and that is where civilizations seem to have primarily gone wrong, in not having that clarity. Maybe a few people had it in the beginning but those who followed began to lose it.
Dialogue and Science Share a Commonality
This brings us to an important root feature of science, which is also present in dialogue: to be ready to acknowledge any fact and any point of view as it actually is, whether one likes it or not. In many areas of life, people are, on the contrary, disposed to collude in order to avoid acknowledging facts and points of view that they find unpleasant or unduly disturbing. Science is, however, at least in principle, dedicated to seeing any fact as it is, and to being open to free communication with regard not only to the fact itself, but also to the point of view from which it is interpreted. Nevertheless, in practice, this is not often achieved. What happens in many cases is that there is a blockage of communication.
Dialogue Does Not Aim For Consensus (We want different views)
It isn't necessary that everybody be convinced to have the same view. This sharing of mind, of consciousness, is more important than the content of the opinions. You may find that the answer is not in the opinions at all, but somewhere else. Truth does not emerge from opinions; it must emerge from something else—perhaps from a more free movement of this tacit mind.
You see, the general culture contains the assumption that there's got to be one meaning that is right and the others are supposed to be wrong. The 'right' meaning is absolutely necessary and then it doesn't yield to the others. It is just this kind of rigid 'right' meaning that often becomes a wrong meaning, as circumstances change. Culture is meaning, and when we have wrong meaning within culture, it is like misinformation.
Suspension is Fundamental to Dialogue
What is essential is that each participant is, as it were, suspending his or her point of view, while also holding other points of view in a suspended form and giving full attention to what they mean. In doing this, each participant has also to suspend the corresponding activity, not only of his or her own tacit infrastructure of ideas, but also of those of the others who are participating in the dialogue. Such a thoroughgoing suspension of tacit individual and cultural infrastructures, in the context of full attention to their contents, frees the mind to move in quite new ways. The tendency toward false play that is characteristic of the rigid infrastructures begins to die away. The mind is then able to respond to creative new perceptions going beyond the particular points of view that have been suspended.
Dialogue is Creative Culture
It's this repetition through generations which reinforces the habit to go along with the old ways of thinking and all the old social relationships and the old culture. Especially now, this problem has to be solved if the civilizations are to survive. In the old days you could say 'well, a civilization could die and another one start up' but now with modern technology we may destroy the whole thing. The problem has become far more urgent.
Therefore the key question is: is it possible to have a constantly creative culture? As soon as you set up a culture its meanings become repetitive and they begin to get in the way. Nevertheless, we need a culture.
Yes. I am saying that, provided it is a true dialogue, it will release creativity. Take science, for example. It is already admitted that if scientists are constantly talking about their work, attending conferences, publishing, exchanging information, new ideas arise in a way that can hardly be noticed. It is still very limited, because people are defending their positions and worrying about the financial rewards they are going to get, and so on. But suppose all those pressures were to go; you would have free creativity in communication.
Yes, dialogue is necessary for creativity in the socio-cultural sphere; that is, this creativity cannot be sustained without dialogue. We may get a burst of creativity but it will not be sustained.
We Must Listen Seriously to the Positions of Other People
The point is whether it is possible for people really to talk. If you now look around and see how people talk
in different situations, you'll see that they are holding non-negotiable positions. Occasionally they get into
a confrontation and fight, but what usually happens is that they have simply learned skillfully to avoid
touching such positions. Therefore the talk is superficial. People are not satisfied with not being able to get
anywhere. But if the talk ceased to be superficial we would face the explosions which would come from
these nonnegotiable positions. So is there any way out of that? I'm suggesting that if it were possible to
listen to other positions, this would be a different state of mind. The usual state of mind is not capable
of listening seriously to a position that is in contradiction to one's own.
Dialogue is Concerned More With Coherent Meaning Than With Truth
Dialogue may not be concerned directly with truth—it may arrive at truth, but it is concerned with meaning. If the meaning is incoherent you will never arrive at truth.
Dialouge Can Lead To Sustained Creativity
To pay serious attention to this need for sustained creativity is extremely relevant for bringing about a
creative change in culture and in society. In most cases, however, creative new discoveries are generally followed by an
attempt to reduce them to something that can be applied mechanically. While mechanical application is necessary in certain
contexts, the basic impetus for each individual must come from the creative origin, and this is beyond any mechanical, explicate, or
sequential order of succession.